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Changed family roles due to health issues

Have you noticed that roles within your family are changing due to health issues? Perhaps you are able to do less around the house, work less or look after your partner or children less. Or perhaps someone else in the family has health issues, meaning you have to take on more responsibilities. This can have a significant impact on the atmosphere at home. Family roles often change gradually. Responsibilities shift, habits change, and everyone has to find a new balance. This can be difficult in practical terms, but also emotionally. It may feel as though you no longer have the role you were used to.

Family roles change as a result of health problems
What do you notice?

Changing family roles can manifest themselves in various ways.

You may, for example, notice that:

  • tasks are distributed differently at home;
  • you feel guilty about what isn’t working out;
  • children or a partner need to help more;
  • irritation arises more quickly;
  • you feel less independent;
  • conversations often revolve around symptoms;
  • you miss your old routines;
  • you feel sad about the change;
  • you find it difficult to accept help.

Sometimes, even when everyone is doing their best, tension still arises. That doesn’t mean the family is failing. It means the situation is demanding a lot.

What might be the reason for this?

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  • Asking for help without straining the relationship

    Would you like to ask your partner, family or friends for help, but are you worried that this might put a strain on the relationship? Perhaps that is why you ask for less help than you actually need. Or you only ask for help when you really can’t cope any longer. This can cause tension, because the other person then suddenly has to take on a lot more. Asking for help within a relationship or family is a sensitive matter. You don’t want to ask too much of the other person. At the same time, you sometimes need support. By discussing the need for help clearly and in good time, the relationship often remains better balanced.

  • Balancing informal care with work or family life

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Health problems can affect energy levels, mood, mobility and capacity. This changes what a person is able to do at home. If this is not discussed, expectations and misunderstandings can quickly arise.

Emotions also play a part. The person with symptoms may feel guilty or dependent. The other person may feel burdened or powerless.

In addition, the family may need time to get used to a new situation. Things that used to happen automatically now need to be agreed upon again.

What can you do yourself?

It helps to make changes open to discussion. Not just what needs to be done in practical terms, but also how everyone experiences it.

For example, you could:

  • discuss together which tasks have changed;
  • redistribute tasks;
  • explain things to children in a way that is appropriate for their age;
  • consider seeking external help;
  • making space for everyday family moments;
  • clearly state what does work;
  • adjust expectations;
  • be kind to one another.

Don’t try to sort everything out in a single conversation. Changing roles takes time.

When is it advisable to seek help?

Seeking help is a sensible thing to do if tensions at home are rising or if the division of tasks is no longer manageable. Support can also help if feelings of guilt, anger or sadness persist.

Please get in touch if the situation becomes too emotionally overwhelming or if you feel unsafe at home.

How Rondom can help

Together, we look at how health issues affect the family and the division of responsibilities. In doing so, we focus on energy levels, roles, coping capacity and communication.

A occupational therapist can help to redistribute daily tasks and find practical solutions. Psychological Support can help with emotions, stress and changing relationships. A lifestyle coach can support recovery and routine.

Together, we are looking for an arrangement that better suits the situation at home.

Are you caring for a loved one and trying to balance this with work, family or other commitments? Perhaps you do it out of love and as a matter of course, but you’re finding that your days are becoming increasingly full. You work, organise appointments, help out at home, keep in touch with care providers and try to make time for your family as well. That can take a lot out of you. Balancing informal care with work or family life often involves finding the right balance. You want to be there for the other person, but you also have your own life, health and responsibilities. If that balance comes under pressure, informal care can become a heavy burden. It is important to assess early on what you need to keep going.

  • Being unable to do as much for one’s partner or children

    Do you find it difficult that you are unable to do as much for your partner or children? Perhaps you find it harder to manage practical tasks, have less energy to give them your full attention, or find yourself having to say ‘no’ more often. That can be painful, especially if looking after others is a key part of who you are. Being able to do less does not mean you are any less important. Yet it can certainly feel that way. You may feel guilty, sad or insecure. It helps to consider what you can still do and how you can remain involved in different ways.

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