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Tensions at home

Have you noticed that there is more tension at home due to health issues, care responsibilities or tiredness? Perhaps irritations arise more quickly, conversations become shorter, or the focus is often on what isn’t going well. That can be upsetting. Home is supposed to be a place where you can relax, but when under prolonged strain, that is precisely where tension can build up. Tension at home does not mean that you do not care for one another. Often, everyone is tired, worried or feeling lost. When health issues or care responsibilities have a significant impact, the dynamics at home change. It is important to discuss this in good time.

Tensions at home
What do you notice?

Tensions at home can manifest themselves in various ways.

You may, for example, notice that:

  • you react more irritably;
  • conversations more often end in arguments;
  • you understand each other less well;
  • practical tasks, leading a discussion;
  • if you feel you are not being heard;
  • you swallow things to avoid an argument;
  • children showing signs of stress;
  • you have less time to relax together;
  • you feel alone at home.

Sometimes, in fact, there is less talking. Everyone tries to carry on, but the distance between them grows.

What might be the reason for this?

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  • Asking for help without straining the relationship

    Would you like to ask your partner, family or friends for help, but are you worried that this might put a strain on the relationship? Perhaps that is why you ask for less help than you actually need. Or you only ask for help when you really can’t cope any longer. This can cause tension, because the other person then suddenly has to take on a lot more. Asking for help within a relationship or family is a sensitive matter. You don’t want to ask too much of the other person. At the same time, you sometimes need support. By discussing the need for help clearly and in good time, the relationship often remains better balanced.

  • Balancing informal care with work or family life

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Tension at home can arise from pain, tiredness, stress, caring for a relative, financial worries or changing roles. As one’s capacity to cope diminishes, there is less room for patience and understanding.

Unclear expectations also play a part. Who does what? What is feasible? When is help needed? If this is not clear, misunderstandings are more likely to arise.

Furthermore, sadness or helplessness can manifest as anger. This can sometimes make conversations more difficult.

What can you do yourself?

It helps to identify stress early on, before it gets out of hand or worsens.

For example, you could:

  • choose a quiet moment to talk;
  • express what you are feeling without blame;
  • discuss which tasks are becoming too much;
  • making arrangements regarding rest and support;
  • explain things to children where appropriate;
  • doing something together that is not related to healthcare;
  • consider seeking external help;
  • If you feel tension building up, take a short break.

Don’t try to sort everything out when everyone is tired or angry. A conversation often goes better at a quieter time.

When is it advisable to seek help?

It is wise to seek help if tensions keep recurring or if you are no longer able to communicate effectively. Help is also important if children are experiencing a great deal of stress or if you do not feel safe at home.

In the event of danger, threats or violence, immediate help is required. Contact your GP.

How Rondom can help

Together, we look at what causes stress at home and what is needed to find more peace of mind. In doing so, we focus on tasks, boundaries, communication, energy and recovery.

A occupational therapist can help to redistribute daily tasks differently. Psychological Support can help with stress, emotions and communication. A lifestyle coach can support recovery, sleep and circadian rhythm.

Together, we look for practical steps that bring more peace of mind and clarity at home.

Are you caring for a loved one and trying to balance this with work, family or other commitments? Perhaps you do it out of love and as a matter of course, but you’re finding that your days are becoming increasingly full. You work, organise appointments, help out at home, keep in touch with care providers and try to make time for your family as well. That can take a lot out of you. Balancing informal care with work or family life often involves finding the right balance. You want to be there for the other person, but you also have your own life, health and responsibilities. If that balance comes under pressure, informal care can become a heavy burden. It is important to assess early on what you need to keep going.

  • Being unable to do as much for one’s partner or children

    Do you find it difficult that you are unable to do as much for your partner or children? Perhaps you find it harder to manage practical tasks, have less energy to give them your full attention, or find yourself having to say ‘no’ more often. That can be painful, especially if looking after others is a key part of who you are. Being able to do less does not mean you are any less important. Yet it can certainly feel that way. You may feel guilty, sad or insecure. It helps to consider what you can still do and how you can remain involved in different ways.

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