Difficulty relaxing
Do you find that relaxing no longer comes naturally? Perhaps you have some free time, but your mind remains busy. Or you feel restless as soon as you sit still. Many people think that relaxation comes naturally once work is done, but that is not always the case. Relaxation is important for recovery. Your body and mind need moments when you don’t have to do anything. If you can’t manage this, fatigue, stress and symptoms may increase. Relaxation is therefore not a luxury, but part of looking after yourself properly.
What do you notice?
Difficulty relaxing can feel very different from person to person.
You may, for example, notice that:
- you find it difficult to sit still;
- your mind keeps going round in circles;
- you feel guilty if you do nothing;
- you quickly reach for your phone;
- you have tense muscles;
- you sleep restlessly;
- you find little pleasure in it;
- you still have plenty to do in your free time;
- You only relax when you are completely exhausted.
Sometimes you can’t quite remember what helps you relax. Things that used to be enjoyable now feel like a chore or an obligation.
What might be the reason for this?
Difficulty relaxing can be caused by stress, high pressure, worries or a busy schedule. If your body has been in ‘action mode’ for a long time, it doesn’t simply switch back to a relaxed state.
Habits also play a part. Being constantly available, spending a lot of time in front of screens or having few moments of rest can keep your mind active.
In addition, pain, tiredness or mental health issues can make it harder to relax. You want to rest, but your body doesn’t feel calm.
What can you do yourself?
It helps to make relaxation simple and achievable. You don’t have to meditate for long periods straight away or be completely still.
For example, you could:
- plan a short break every day;
- a leisurely walk;
- try some breathing exercises;
- reduce screen time;
- doing something with your hands, such as drawing or cooking;
- listening to music;
- go outside more often;
- Don’t save relaxation for the end of the day.
See what suits you best. Relaxation only works if it feels achievable and enjoyable.
When is it advisable to seek help?
It is advisable to seek help if you hardly ever relax anymore. Or if anxiety is affecting your sleep, work or relationships. It is also worth seeking advice if you worry a lot, get stressed easily or experience physical symptoms caused by stress.
Please also seek help if relaxation makes you feel guilty or if you no longer know how to unwind.
How Rondom can help
Together, we’ll look at what makes it difficult for you to relax. In doing so, we’ll focus on stress, habits, sleep, energy and recovery.
A lifestyle coach can help to make relaxation and recovery a regular part of your day. A occupational therapist can help you find a balance between stress and relaxation. If you’re worrying, feeling tense or under mental pressure, you can psychological support should be appropriate.
We are looking for ways to help you find peace and tranquillity in your daily life again.
