Specifying boundaries
Do you find it difficult to set boundaries? Perhaps you often say ‘yes’ when you actually want to say ‘no’. Or you only realise afterwards that something was too much. Setting boundaries sounds simple, but it can still be tricky. Especially if you don’t want to disappoint others or are afraid of causing a fuss. Boundaries help to protect your energy, health and recovery. They make it clear what works and what doesn’t. This is important at work, at home, in your studies and in social interactions. Setting boundaries is not a sign of unwillingness. It is a way of looking after yourself properly.
What do you notice?
Struggling to set boundaries can have a significant impact on your day.
You may, for example, notice that:
- you say ‘yes’ more often than is good for you;
- you feel exhausted afterwards;
- you feel guilty when you say no;
- you take on tasks from others;
- you are not allowing yourself enough time to recover;
- you feel nervous before discussing something;
- you get angry or sad because it’s all too much;
- you push your own needs aside;
- You should only stop if your symptoms worsen.
Sometimes people hope that others will automatically realise that it is too much. But often that does not happen. It is then necessary to be clear about your own boundaries.
