Dependence on a partner or family
Do you find it difficult to become more dependent on your partner or family? Perhaps you need help with daily tasks, transport, care or administrative matters. This can bring a sense of gratitude, but also shame, frustration or sadness. Dependence affects your independence and self-esteem. Help from a partner or family can mean a great deal. Yet it can also cause tension if the dynamic changes. You may not want to be a burden. The other person wants to help, but doesn’t always know how. It is important to work together to find a way that remains manageable for everyone.
What do you notice?
Dependence can be noticeable both practically and emotionally.
You may, for example, notice that:
- you need help more often;
- if you feel uncomfortable;
- you feel you have less freedom;
- you get angry or sad when something doesn’t work out;
- you refuse help even though you need it;
- your partner or family member becomes overburdened;
- you have less say;
- tension arises over responsibilities;
- you are afraid of asking the other person too much.
Sometimes, receiving help can be both pleasant and painful. That is normal.
