Being unable to do as much for one’s partner or children
Do you find it difficult that you are unable to do as much for your partner or children? Perhaps you find it harder to manage practical tasks, have less energy to give them your full attention, or find yourself having to say ‘no’ more often. That can be painful, especially if looking after others is a key part of who you are. Being able to do less does not mean you are any less important. Yet it can certainly feel that way. You may feel guilty, sad or insecure. It helps to consider what you can still do and how you can remain involved in different ways.
What do you notice?
Being unable to do as much for your partner or children can stir up a lot of emotions.
You may, for example, notice that:
- you feel guilty;
- you get tired more quickly when you’re with your family;
- avoids activities involving children;
- you must leave your household chores undone;
- you have less patience;
- you feel more dependent on your partner;
- you feel sad about what you can no longer do;
- you are afraid of disappointing others;
- you find it difficult to accept help.
Sometimes you try to carry on anyway so as not to be a burden to anyone. But that is precisely how you can end up pushing yourself beyond your limits.
